People that know me, recognize that I consider any “Hallmark Card” day to be, at best, irrelevant.In fact, with regard to the celebration of Father's Day, I think that the Hallmark Company got it all wrong!
Please don’t misunderstand me, it is important to express feelings of Love.
But Love is not a sentiment conveyed on a card or by a get together for Sunday Brunch.
For me, Love is, was, and always will be ... a Verb.
It’s a “what you do” and “how you behave for the ones that you truly cherish”.
As a child, throughout adolescence, as adults and even into our lives as couples, we tend to look at our interaction with the world in terms of how it relates to “me”.
It’s the primal way of looking at things and for most of our lives it’s absolutely normal.
Do you want to know a secret? ... That intellectual and emotional paradigm came crashing down and was forever cast aside the moment my children were born!
The shift was unconscious, spontaneous, and universal. ... Instantly, the story was no longer about me, it became about them.
My life’s mission statement became absolutely clear and for that moment in time I was absolutely euphoric!
At once, I was one with the universe and simultaneously bound to this world by the the gravity of my new responsibilities.
So Happy Father's Day! ... (I Guess) ... But, have you considered what it really takes to be a good Dad?
Most people believe that being a good Dad means being in Love with their children.
Hmmm? ... Is that all there is? ... Isn’t there more?
What would you think if I told you that True Love is not really a state of Being?
Not Being in Love? ... With your Kids? ... Blasphemy!
Speaking of the state of "Being", here’s something else for you to ponder. ... I also believe that each and every one of us we are nothing more than cosmic dust blown to earth by the grace of G-d!
Do you believe that that the divine source put us here to frame our reality in self focused thought?
Is that what it’s all about?
No, it gets back to the Verb thing!
In the end, we will be remembered for and measured not by words, pledges and sentiments but by our good deeds and our acts of love.
As I have said before, and please excuse my vulgarity but, ... “it takes a lot more than a teaspoon of sperm to be a Father.”
Our children never asked to be here and it’s certainly not their job to celebrate any “Fatherly” contribution to the fact of their very existence.
In my opinion, if there were any real need to celebrate Father's Day, every Dad in this world should be the ones who shop for Cards and take their Kids out for Brunch!
